Thursday, October 30, 2008

Would you have made the same choice?

At a fund raising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection.

Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?' The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. 'I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father

watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!' Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball ... the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman' s head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!'

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOTNOTE TO THIS STORY: We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

22nd ASCOPE Games

This year, Brunei, represented by Petroleum Brunei (PB) had the honor to host the games. In previous years, Brunei was represented by Petroleum Unit (PU). The games was launched on 22 October, with a reception cocktail for all participating countries at the Indera Kayangan, the Empire Hotel and Country Club.

Me, Mazlan, Hjh Juani, Hjh Noraini and Nadia at the reception cocktail

ASCOPE, the ASEAN Councils On Petroleum, consist of Brunei, Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand, Vietnam, Myanmar, Cambodia, Indonesia and Philippines take turn to host the games.This is my 6th participation and represented the tennis team.

With Shapiee, partnering for the mix-doubles against Thailand


In action....


Partnering Mazlan against Malaysia


The tennis contingents

The games ended on 25 October with a farewell dinner at the Royal Berkshire Hall, Jerudong Park Polo Club. Next year in 2009, it will be Singapore to host BUT it could be postponed due to the financial crisis, as announced by the CEO of SPC at the farewell.

With tennis mates from Thailand and Indonesia





Looking forward for another tennis tour, though I have to do it under the hot sun.....

Pink Activities

Last 25 October, 2008, I was again invited by DJ Anna to her show in Kristal FM. I was joined by Matron Dayang Hajah Jaliha Hj Momin, Community Health Nurse, who is also the Chairlady of our Brunei Breast Cancer Support Group. On air, the Matron shared on how to do Breast Self Examnation (BSE), the diffirent steps how to do the BSE and other breast cancer related info.

I was also joined by my nieces, DayangKu Farah Aiysha and DayangKu Farah Abadi (the 'Ambuyat' Girl in the ASTRO Disney Channel). The girls had the chance to learn from DJ Anna how to operate their system and later they had the chance to request for their favourite songs to be played on air.


While later in that afternoon, I was invited by the Ministry of Health, as the guest speaker at their function, in conjunction with the October Breast Cancer Awareness Month. The talk, attended by community nurses from throughout the country, was organized to increase their awarness being the frontline health personel.


Matron Hajah Mariah Haji Buntar presenting the souvenir

Read related articles from the Brunei Times
Vow To Fight Her Last Breath
Breast Cancer On The Rise In Brunei

Monday, October 20, 2008

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Pink October is here. There is currently not very much effort have been put in, into gearing up to increase the awareness amongst the public in the country. Unlike others, I have seen about Pink October in the TV, posters all around and also public talks being held. I do know only a small part of the community is taking this into account seriously and I have been invited as the guest speaker later at the Awareness Program, on 25 October, 2008.

The fact is an estimated 182,460 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to occur among women in the United States during 2008. An estimated 40,480 women will die from breast cancer. Breast cancer is the second deadliest cancer in women (behind lung cancer).

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Al-Fatihah.....

During our last summer holidays in London, we were shocked by sad news from Brunei. A colleague and my SS79 mate, passed away, after some months of battling against cancer.

The colleague, who was an active golfer, suffered from colon? cancer.I still remember the last time when I met and talked to him in the office. He looked so worried (who didn't?) and he had lost so much weight already then. I did not know about his illness until another colleague told me. I was hoping to see him again after that but he was already on medical leave.....

For the case of my SS79 mate, he left behind a wife and 8 children. He was diagnosed with lung cancer.

May they rest in peace and in the safe-keeping of Allah SWT....amien.....